Tuesday, January 3, 2012
Getting to Know You Jar: Building Intimacy Through Sharing
There are a variety of books, personal history prompt resources and games (such as "Would You Rather . . .?") that use questions in order to trigger memories or start conversations that will allow others to learn more about you.
For the purpose of this way to surprise and delight your darling husband, fill a jar or other container with slips of paper, each of which contains such a question.
Every now and then, sit down with your DH and pull a slip of paper from the jar. Have him answer the question on the paper. Then you can answer, as well.
This allows you both to learn more about each other, which helps you to build intimacy and improve communication skills.
A few examples of questions you might include in your Getting to Know You jar:
What is the earliest memory that you have?
Who was your favorite school teacher and why?
What frightened you most as a child, why and how did you overcome it?
What is your fondest memory of your (fill in special person in his life, such as mother, father, brother, sister, etc)?
What is the nicest thing anyone has ever done for you and what made it so special for you? (*do not take offense if you are not the doer in the answer given. Use the answer as a source of inspiration for more ways to do special things for your DH)
TIP: Remember that the point of this is to get to know your DH, not to take offense, get upset or argue. Keep things loving, supportive and emotionally 'safe'.
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