Friday, December 30, 2011

Do It For Him

You know that thing that your beloved hunk of a man desperately wants or needs to do, but just never gets around to doing? That is the  perfect thing for you to do for him. Whether its him forgetting to take his suits to the dry cleaner, shine his dress shoes, get his watch repaired or pick up a new charger for his phone, if it is something that you can do for him, do so.

Now, if it is something that he is very particular about, you may just want to give him sexy or silly little reminders so he will take care of it himself. Either way, your darling husband will appreciate your thoughtfulness.

Tip: If possible, go the extra mile with this one. For example, if he always forgets to do these little things, setting him up with a free reminder service or you just taking charge of getting them done for him would be a great added bonus. Some programs, such as Thunderbird email, come with add-ons that include reminders. Remember the Milk is another option. It works on cell phones, through Google, etc.

Image: Chance Agrella.

Thursday, December 29, 2011

The Car Door: Exiting

This marriage tip ties in with another one (The Car Door: Entering). When your DH opens your car door for you and helps you out of the car, flash him your best smile, give him a quick kiss and tell him “Thank you.”

TIP: Simple little acts of courtesy really do add up and make a difference. Regularly using the words "please", "thank you" and "I am sorry" do, as well.

Image: czmarlin. GNU Free Documentation License, version 1.2. Wikimedia Commons.

Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Books and Distraction

This one is a little playful fun for book lovers. Have your DH sit down in such a way that you can straddle his lap, facing him. Hand him a book and place his free hand on your back. He can hold the book behind you as he reads. While he reads aloud to you, kiss his neck, nibble on his ear, etc. See how long he can read before he is too distracted. Let nature take its course.

Tip: if your DH wants to playfully test your skills of concentration, you can use this same basic position, but with you holding the book (arms extended behind his head) and trying to read aloud.

Image Credit: GeoffreyWhiteway/

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

Teach Me: Building Intimacy through Sharing

Another great way to help build intimacy in your relationship with your Darling Husband (DH) is to ave him teach you about something he loves so you can better enjoy it together. Does he love football and want you to go to football games with him? Have him teach you a few of the basics of the game. You can even spend a little time tossing the ball to each other, running with the ball, etc. He will appreciate your genuine interest in something that interests him.

TIP: This doesn't mean you need to 'intrude' on his much-needed time with his mates, but it does mean a little expressed interest and support of the things he loves can go a long way in adding to the intimacy you experience in your relationship.

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Monday, December 26, 2011

To Err is Human: Respond with Kindness and Kisses

Sometimes in a relationship it can be easy to forget that as well as darling husbands know us, they are not mind-readers. It can be equally difficutl to always remember that they are not perfect . . . nor are we. This means it is not really reasonable of us to expect our beloved to always say or do the right thing.

One surefire way to nip an argument in the bud is to not let it start. The next time he says or does something that rubs you the wrong way, take a deep breath, remember how much you love him, and respond with kindness. Give him the benefit of the doubt, a chance to clarify, the opportunity to apologize or just "give him a pass."

All the lip action that would have been wasted on fighting words can now be used for some good, thorough kissing: a much better alternative-doncha think?

Here are two bits of musical inspiration for your enjoyment:
Shut up and Kiss Me by Orianthi

Shut up and Kiss Me by Mary Chapin Carpenter

Happy Smoochin'!

Image: Chance Agrella.

Friday, December 23, 2011

Wear It

You know that thing you would never in a million years wear that your dearest love really wants you to wear? Wear it. Just once. 

It could be risque lingerie, a revealing special occasion dress or a simple pair of jeans when you only wear dress slacks. Its not about the thousand little flaws you will be so quick to pick out in how you look in it (Though I am sure you will look mah-velous, Darling!). Its about creating a fantasy for him. And that is really all that will matter to him: you doing something outside of the box, despite your own hesitancy, just for him.

Tip: Remember this is about doing something for him, so relax and have fun. Throw yourself into the moment and enjoy all the attention and affection he is lavishing on you. Focus on how much it means to him and you may just forget about your own misgivings.

Image: Hendrike. GNU Free Documentation License, version 1.2. Wikimedia Commons. 

Thursday, December 22, 2011

The Car Door: Entering

It's those little thoughtful things we develop into habits that can really help make a difference in a relationship. Today's way to surprise and delight your dearest husband is one such example.

The next time your darling husband opens the car door for you so you can climb into the car, be sure to flash him your best smile and say “Thank you.” Then, after he closes your door, quickly lean over, unlock and open his door. Try to hold it open, even if just a little bit, for him.

TIP: Try to develop the habit of doing this, as well as the upcoming Car Door Exit way to surprise and delight your husband. He will appreciate the thoughtfulness and appreciation. It will also help him stay motivated to show these little courtesies, such as opening your door for you, to you on a regular basis.

Image: czmarlin. GNU Free Documentation License, version 1.2. Wikimedia Commons.

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Hand Massage

This act of sexy fun can be done any time, not just when his hands may be sore.

Wrestle your darling husband to the couch (just kidding) and get comfortable between his legs, with your back up against his chest. Rest his hands on your legs. Take one of his hands in yours and slowly begin to massage it. You can massage partway up his arm if you like. When you are done with that hand, rest it on your legs and massage your dearest one's other hand. 

NOTE: Some men don’t like the feel or scent of lotion or oil, so you may need to give the massage “dry”.

TIP: There are many great free resources available for learning massage basics. Here is one specific to how to give a great hand massage.

Image: Keith Schengili-Roberts. GNU Free Documentation License, Version 1.2. Wikimedia Commons.

Tuesday, December 20, 2011

The Notebook

Something you can create for your darling husband over time is a notebook filled with special memories and words of love and encouragement from you. You can include photos or other mementos, but the most important part is to share with him why you love him, how much you love him and how very special he is to you.

This notebook is written with love by you and is for his eyes only. It can be a simple notebook, a journal or a handmade leather-bound notebook you have created yourself.

Remember when you have those loving thoughts and special moments to take the time to write something about them in his notebook for him. Let him have the joy of not only reading them, but of being regularly surprised to find new entries in his notebook.

When you start having negative thoughts about your beloved one, pull out his notebook  for a quick review of how much he means to you, flaws and all.

Monday, December 19, 2011

Give Him a Jubilant Greeting: Sultry Style

Surprise your darling husband with a most jubilant greeting when he comes home after a long, stressful day. A little advance planning really helps pull this one off to his sheer surprise and delight.

While you don’t have to dress up in your finest gown, do make sure you have taken care with your appearance. The usual jeans or sweatpants will not do for this greeting. Plus, if the plan is for the greeting to move beyond the front door, a shower and lacy underthings may also be in order.

When your dearest love enters your abode, be sure to approach him with your best sultry walk while smiling an inviting smile, slide your arms around his neck and kiss him thoroughly. What happens after that is up to the two of you.

Want a little musical inspiration? Try Faith Hill's "This Kiss" video on YouTube.

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