Discovering His Passion

What is it that your darling husband is truly passionate about? It could be a hobby, a cause or something else. Surprise him by spending some time with him learning more about his passion.

When did he first discover this passion? What is it about it that pulls him in? Really try to hear what he is saying about the attraction and what his passion gives him or allows him to do/be.

Is his passion something he likes to do on his own, with his mates or wants you to do with him? Take an interest and find out more about this part of your sweetheart's life.

If he wants you to participate in some way, it may not be your passion, but being around him while he is 'in his element' can be a very enlightening and joyful experience for both of you.

Seeing your man light up and really come to life while doing what he loves is a beautiful sight to behold.

A little musical inspiration:



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Getting to Know You Jar: Building Intimacy Through Sharing

There are a variety of books, personal history prompt resources and games (such as "Would You Rather . . .?") that use questions in order to trigger memories or start conversations that will allow others to learn more about you.

For the purpose of this way to surprise and delight your darling husband, fill a jar or other container with slips of paper, each of which contains such a question.

Every now and then, sit down with your DH and pull a slip of paper from the jar. Have him answer the question on the paper. Then you can answer, as well.

This allows you both to learn more about each other, which helps you to build intimacy and improve communication skills.

A few examples of questions you might include in your Getting to Know You jar:

What is the earliest memory that you have?
Who was your favorite school teacher and why?
What frightened you most as a child, why and how did you overcome it?
What is your fondest memory of your (fill in special person in his life, such as mother, father, brother, sister, etc)?
What is the nicest thing anyone has ever done for you and what made it so special for you? (*do not take offense if you are not the doer in the answer given. Use the answer as a source of inspiration for more ways to do special things for your DH)




TIP: Remember that the point of this is to get to know your DH, not to take offense, get upset or argue. Keep things loving, supportive and emotionally 'safe'.




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Teach Me: Building Intimacy through Sharing

Another great way to help build intimacy in your relationship with your Darling Husband (DH) is to ave him teach you about something he loves so you can better enjoy it together. Does he love football and want you to go to football games with him? Have him teach you a few of the basics of the game. You can even spend a little time tossing the ball to each other, running with the ball, etc. He will appreciate your genuine interest in something that interests him.




TIP: This doesn't mean you need to 'intrude' on his much-needed time with his mates, but it does mean a little expressed interest and support of the things he loves can go a long way in adding to the intimacy you experience in your relationship.








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The Notebook

Something you can create for your darling husband over time is a notebook filled with special memories and words of love and encouragement from you. You can include photos or other mementos, but the most important part is to share with him why you love him, how much you love him and how very special he is to you.

This notebook is written with love by you and is for his eyes only. It can be a simple notebook, a journal or a handmade leather-bound notebook you have created yourself.

Remember when you have those loving thoughts and special moments to take the time to write something about them in his notebook for him. Let him have the joy of not only reading them, but of being regularly surprised to find new entries in his notebook.

Tip:
When you start having negative thoughts about your beloved one, pull out his notebook  for a quick review of how much he means to you, flaws and all.

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